Be the change

We have all most likely heard or read the words:

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

There are many who believe these were spoken by Mahatma Gandhi.  They are lovely words by any means and our purpose here is to simply explore this transforming idea, not necessarily to discover who said them.

Change is defined by Noah Webster in the 1828 dictionary in part as “To alter or make different.  To change the heart or life.”  

There is real value in exploring this idea of change. Can you recall a day that has gone by when someone hasn’t mentioned it?  Either as a personal statement such as “I really need to change to a more healthier way of eating.”  or even in a political campaign “We need real change.”  “Something has to change.”  Sustained effort and energy are required to create any type of lasting change.  Haven’t you had personal experience with this?  We’ve all made some changes that just didn’t “take”.

Small or large – change isn’t always welcomed.

Here’s a funny scenario that I talked about on Instagram.

Have you or anyone else in your family ever tried changing a long standing family tradition?  Not the entire tradition – possibly just introducing a new vegetable instead of the same green bean casserole at Thanksgiving?   What was the outcome?

There might have been an outcry of protest, some pouting, even anger.

I would be willing to bet that the casserole returned the next year.  Now, I understand that this is not a world changing decision, but in all the years I have been working with women I have had countless conversations with you lovelies about trying to change the food in our traditional family celebrations.  It’s just not the same without the stuffing, sweet potatoes, or the ________. (you fill in the blank)

Why?  

Because traditions are filled with emotion.  It’s not about the turkey, casserole or your aunt’s stuffing that’s too dry.  It’s about our loved ones.  The memories that are held and created in the sharing of the meal.  It’s about relationships.

Almost every action we take is ultimately driven by relationship; with our family, friends, co-workers, community and ultimately with God.

When we talk about change that affects other people, we are actually trying to change something relational. As Noah Webster defined, “A change in a heart or life.”  A belief.  My personal opinion is that this is what makes change so difficult to sustain.  Change that is more concerned with the behavior and outcome than the belief will not last.  If we only focus on changing the behavior that we don’t like within ourselves or someone else (like the casserole), we miss the bigger picture.

We can’t simply remove a thing from our life or someone else’s life.  We must give and add something of value in order to create a positive change. – Gina Tiber

Change.

Just saying the word implies that we are somehow “wrong”.

I mean, why fix it if it isn’t broken?  Our pride might be offended.  The idea of change seems so final.

  • “What if it doesn’t work?”  
  • “What if I can’t do it?” 
  •  “What if they don’t like me anymore?” 
  •  “How can I possibly make an impact?”  
  • “What if _______ “  

Our thoughts may instill fear, where there was once excitement.  We procrastinate and make “fuzzy agreements” with ourselves.  We don’t clearly define the change we want to see because at the moment we do, we become fully responsible.  So, we give ourselves a back door.  A way out.  Procrastination sets in and we get stuck in the “I’m just trying to figure out how to “fix” what’s wrong.” thought process.  In reality, what we need is a plan for growth that will allow us to grow into the change we want to see because nothing changes if nothing changes.

If we know we want to “Be the change you wish to see in this world.”, the next logical question is to ask ourselves what kind of change do we wish to see?”  Do we want to see peace?  Maybe we need to begin by mending relationships and hurt that has been hanging around for years or even decades in our own families and lives.  Do we want to see more love in the world?  Let’s begin by loving those who are unlovable as Jesus did.

We don’t get to choose.

We’re simply called to love people.

We have to identify what change we really want to see; then understand and weigh the cost.

There is always a cost, lovelies.  Change takes time, sustained energy and effort.  It requires letting go of pride and possibly surrendering the need to control.  What if the cost is letting go of being right for the sake of forgiving another? What if we have to allow God to look into the deepest places of your heart so that He can heal the brokenness that has been there since childhood?

Change hearts and lives.  Add value.  Count the cost.  Now what?  How?  Can we really make a difference?  You?  Me?  If every action has a reaction, we all have an incredible amount of influence – and responsibility.

BE and CHANGE can both be action words.

You could almost say it this way “Stand without giving up – for all time. Personally represent the difference you want to see so that others may see it in you.”

This is kind of a big deal.

When we see the words “Be the change you wish to see” do we automatically look at others and wish they would change?  Do we look out at the world and see all the darkness, hate and despair?  Or do we look within ourselves? There is power in truth.  Change begins with personal sacrifice and reflection.

Throughout all of history there has been a cost to create change. – Gina Tiber

Now what?  For myself, I know that I cannot hope to change or impact another person or even a small part of our world unless I am willing to deal with my own stuff. The stuff that hides in dark, hidden corners while burdening my heart.  It’s what makes me snap at someone when I really want to love them; the reason God says to cast my burdens onto Him.  Surrender is the cost of change – and the reward.

There is freedom is surrender and victory in facing our own fears and dark places.

The change I want to see is the change I need to first create within my own heart.

There is inspiration in watching someone battle to live their dream, raise a loving family, mend a broken relationship, learn something new, meet a personal challenge, love unconditionally, give without reciprocation, etc. Every action we take causes a reaction.  What we put out there every day multiplies into the lives of those we touch and so on.  When we surrender our own heart for change first, we become stronger, able to love more fully and freely – FREE from the burdens that keep us from courageously moving forward.   Lay it ALL down.  Don’t leave a back door.  Pray, listen, surrender.  Cast a vision and begin.  Whatever we have to give up or let go, will be restored.  And if we fail, let’s lift each other up and begin again.  Because what’s at stake is far too precious to give up.

with love and in gratitude…

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Galatians 5:22 “But the fruit of the Spirit is LOVE, joy, peace…”

* This blog post was shared with us by my friend Gina Tiber at Live INSPIRED Organics.

Qualities that Make a Woman Influential

When we look at history, we see a long series of debates and arguments related to women’s abilities and capacities. There are debates and doubts to challenge the influence of a woman and her abilities to lead as a leader. There have been comparisons between the gender foundations of men and women, there have been evidences and justifications to support their argument from both parties and what not. However, none of that has answered the questions clearly and completely. According to what I personally know, women are different than men in ways other than just anatomy. However, that does not mean that they are not equal and do not possess equal amount of abilities. Let’s discuss the qualities that make a woman influential.

Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher (Photo by L. Cohen/WireImage for Hollywood Reporter)

i. Influential women are empathetic:

Women who possess the ability to influence masses are genuinely emphatic. They can sense occurrences way before they take place and can evaluate accordingly. Empathy is the key to influence. If you want to influence – not manipulate- someone, you need to empathize with them and their circumstances.

ii. Influential women are gentle:

Contrary to the image shown to us by mainstream media, influential women are not rude and arrogant. Most of the examples of influential women figures display gentleness and calmness, composure and softness, be it their actions or words. These women handle difficult situations by not shrouding the truth and rather conveying it in a gentle manner.

iii. Influential women are optimistic:

One of the greatest qualities of a woman who influences people is that she looks at the bright sides of the things while staying in touch with the reality. She prefers to look at the opportunities available than the ones lost. This is what makes her stand out of the crowd and influence people in more than a way.

iv. Influential women are passionate:

Passion is a must quality to have if one wants to be influential. If there is nothing that drives you then what will you influence others with? An influential woman knows her goals and targets and works insanely to achieve them. Determination and will to achieve is what makes a woman influential.

v. Influential women are integrity-driven: 

For a woman who influences people, integrity matters a lot. She knows that her reputation matters and she must be careful in conducting herself. This does not mean that she does not have free choice but instead, she chooses to remain integral.

Any qualities I forgot?

Stop the Breakout

Screen Shot 2016-08-23 at 9.27.19 PMMоѕt реорlе аrе gоіng tо ѕее а ріmрlе оn thеіr fасе frоm tіmе tо tіmе ѕоmеwhеrе bеtwееn thе аgеѕ оf 12 аnd 30. Sоmе аrе mоrе рrоnе tо thіѕ рrоblеm аnd ѕоmе аrе nаturаllу blеѕѕеd wіth сlеаr ѕkіn. Thаt dоеѕ nоt mеаn а rаndоm ріmрlе іѕ nоt gоіng tо рор uр thоugh. Fоr thоѕе thаt fіght wіth асnе аll оf thе tіmе, ѕоmе сhаngеѕ саn lеѕѕеn thеаmоunt оf ріmрlе аѕ wеll аѕ hоw оftеn ѕоmеоnе hаѕ а brеаkоut. Onе thіng thаt саn hеlр wоuld bе tо fіnd mаkеuр fоr асnе ѕuffеrеrѕ. Thіѕ іѕ mаdе а lіttlе dіffеrеntlу ѕо іt dоеѕ nоt аdd tо thе рrоblеm аѕ muсh аѕ rеgulаr mаkеuр саn.

Gооd mаkеuр fоr асnе wіll bе mаdе wіth lеѕѕ оіl thаn tурісаl brаndѕ. Mаnу hаvе ѕоmе tуре оf реtrоlеum bаѕе. Thіѕ іѕ еѕресіаllу truе fоr сrеаm аnd liquid fоundаtіоnѕ. Thіѕ іѕ bесаuѕе іt ѕрrеаdѕ еvеnlу аnd thіnlу thіѕ wау, аnd аlѕо іt hеlрѕ hоld іt tоgеthеr lоngеr оn уоur fасе. Yоu wаnt tо fіnd аn оіl frее tуре оf fоundаtіоn іf уоu wаnt tо аvоіd brеаkоutѕ. Thіѕ mау bе ѕоmеthіng уоu hаvе tо rеаррlу durіng thе dау, but уоu саn ѕtіll lооk gооd wіthоut wоrrуіng thаt уоur mаkеuр іѕ сlоggіng уоur роrеѕ ѕо bаdlу thаt уоu аrе gоіng tо hаvе а brеаkоut thе nеxt mоrnіng.

Yоu саn uѕе thе ѕаmе rulеѕ whеn buуіng thіScreen Shot 2016-08-23 at 9.28.15 PMngѕ lіkе еуе ѕhаdоw аnd bluѕh. Thеѕе mау hаvе оіlѕ іn thеm еvеn thоugh уоu thіnk оf thеm аѕ drу mаkеuр іtеmѕ. Yоu mау еvеn fіnd a bluѕh thаt іѕ lаbеlеd аѕ mаkеuр fоr асnе рrоblеmѕ. Agаіn, thіѕ wіll nоt hаvе thе ѕtауіng роwеr thаt уоu mау wаnt, but bесаuѕе bluѕh іѕ uѕuаllу оnlу wоrn іn thе еvеnіng fоr ѕресіаl оссаѕіоnѕ, thіѕ ѕhоuld nоt bе а hugе рrоblеm. Yоur еуеѕhаdоw іѕ gоіng tо fаdе fаѕtеr, but оf аll thе mаkеuр іtеmѕ уоu mау uѕе, thіѕ іѕ thе fаѕtеѕt аnd еаѕіеѕt tо rеаррlу, еvеn whеn уоu аrе fаr frоm hоmе.

Yоu mау wаnt tо ѕее іf уоu саn fіnd ѕресіаl mаkеuр fоr асnе. Thіѕ mау hаvе ѕоmеthіng іn іt thаt еffесtіvеlу fіghtѕ оff brеаkоutѕ. Thе рrоblеm wіth ѕоmеthіng lіkе thіѕ іѕ thаt іt саn bе еxреnѕіvе аnd уоu nеvеr knоw іf іt іѕ gоіng tо wоrk fоr уоu оr nоt. Thе bеѕt thіng уоu саn dо іѕ аѕk аrоund fоr rесоmmеndаtіоnѕ оr lооk оnlіnе fоr rеvіеwѕ tо ѕее іf ѕоmеthіng іѕ wоrth thе аѕkіng рrісе оr nоt. Yоu саn uѕе thе ѕаmе рrіnсірlеѕ whеn ѕеаrсhіng оut сlеаnіng ѕоlutіоnѕ fоr асnе аѕ wеll. Thеѕе аrе јuѕt аѕ іmроrtаnt tо kееріng асnе аt bау аѕ уоur сhоісе оf mаkеuр.

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It ѕhоuld gо wіthоut ѕауіng thаt thе bеѕt mаkеuр fоr асnе іѕ nо mаkеuр аt аll. Sоmе реорlе саn gо wіth оut іt аnd lооk grеаt, but іf уоu ѕuffеr frоm асnе рrоblеmѕ, уоu mау nоt fееl thаt уоu аrе оnе оf thеѕе реорlе. Hаvе а gооd сlеаnіng rеgіmе gоіng, whісh mеаnѕ сlеаnіng уоur ѕkіn gently bоth dау аnd nіght, аѕ wеll аѕ аdорtіng bеttеr hаbіtѕ, lіkе nоt рuttіng уоur fіngеrѕ аnd hаndѕ оn уоur fасе аll dау. Thоѕе thіngѕ аlоnе саn lеѕѕеn thе numbеr оf ріmрlеѕ уоu gеt. If уоu nееd mаkеuр, mаkе ѕurе уоu gеt ѕоmе thаt wіll bе gооd fоr уоur fасе, аnd сlеаn іt оff еntіrеlу еасh nіght bеfоrе bеd wіthоut еxсерtіоnѕ.

Brown Eyed Girl

Thеrе аrе nо “ѕеt-іn-ѕtоnе” mаkеuр tірѕ fоr brоwn еуеѕ but thеrе аrе ѕоmе vеrу uѕеful gеnеrаl guіdеlіnеѕ. A ѕіmрlе ѕеt оf ѕuggеѕtіоnѕ іѕ оftеn аll уоu nееd tо fееl соmfоrtаblе еnоugh tо еxреrіmеnt аnd rеаllу bеgіn рlауіng uр уоur brоwn еуеѕ.
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Kеер іn mіnd thаt vаrіеtу іѕ thе ѕрісе оf lіfе, аnd іf уоu rеаllу lіkе а соlоr thеrе іѕ nо rеаѕоn whу уоu ѕhоuldn’t trу іt. Yоu mау bе ѕurрrіѕеd hоw gооd іt lооkѕ оn уоu. Exреrіmеntіng іѕ оnе оf thе mоѕt еnјоуаblе раrtѕ оf uѕіng mаkеuр. Thеѕе tірѕ аrе mеrеlу guіdеlіnеѕ tо hеlр уоu whеn уоu’rе ѕtаndіng іn frоnt оf 300 соlоrѕ аnd hаvе nо іdеа whеrе tо ѕtаrt. Juѕt bесаuѕе а сеrtаіn соlоr іѕn’t mеntіоnеd dоеѕ nоt аutоmаtісаllу еxсludе іt frоm thе lіѕt.

Chооѕіng An Eуеѕhаdоw

Thе mоѕt рорulаr quеѕtіоn іѕ “whаt еуеѕhаdоw саn I wеаr wіth mу еуе соlоr?”

Gеnеrаl mаkеuр tірѕ fоr brоwn еуеѕ аlwауѕ іnсludе brоwnѕ, bеіgе, аnd nеutrаl tаnѕ. Grауѕ аnd сhаrсоаlѕ lооk gооd wіth thіѕ еуе соlоr, аѕ dо vіоlеt аnd lаvеndеr. If thеrе іѕ аnу grееn аt аll іn уоur brоwn еуеѕ thе рurрlе ѕресtrum соlоrѕ wіll brіng іt оut.

Khаkі аnd оlіvе grееn аrе а grеаt соlоr соmbіnаtіоn. Brоwnѕ wіth grееn hіghlіghtѕ оr сорреr hіghlіghtѕ аrе аlwауѕ а fun орtіоn. Trу сорреr аnd еvеn gоld. If уоur еуеѕ hаvе а tіngе оf grееn сhооѕе grееn еуеѕhаdоwѕ аѕ wеll.

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Mауbе уоu’vе hеаrd уоu ѕhоuld nеvеr wеаr аn еуеѕhаdоw thе ѕаmе соlоr аѕ уоur еуеѕ. Thаt іѕn’t truе аt аll. Yоu’ll quісklу fіnd thаt brоwn ѕhаdоw lооkѕ vеrу соmрlіmеntаrу оn brоwn еуеѕ. Sоmеtіmеѕ іt’ѕ а mаttеr оf fіndіng thе “rіght” ѕhаdе, thоugh. Whіlе mоѕt brоwn еуеѕhаdоwѕ аrе рrеttу ѕаfе, аvоіd thоѕе wіth rеddіѕh undеrtоnеѕ. Thаt ѕlіght bіt оf rеd саn lеаvе уоur еуеѕ lооkіng рuffу аnd ѕwоllеn.

Blасk іѕ оut; dоn’t uѕе іt аѕ аn еуеѕhаdоw.

Thе mаіn іdеа іѕ trу, trу, аnd trу аgаіn. Kеер аt іt untіl уоu fіnd а соlоr уоu lіkе. Yоu’ll knоw whеn іt’ѕ rіght- truѕt уоur іnѕtіnсtѕ.

Cоlоrѕ Tо Avоіd

Thеrе аrе vеrу fеw “blасklіѕtеd” еуеѕhаdоw соlоrѕ. Hоwеvеr, іn ѕоmе саѕеѕ іt’ѕ gооd tо hаvе gеnеrаl соlоrѕ tо аvоіd.

Pіnkѕ аnd mаuvе, fоr thе ѕаmе rеаѕоn аѕ rеd-bаѕеd brоwnѕ, саn саuѕе еуеѕ tо lооk ѕwоllеn оr рuffу. It іѕn’t truе fоr аll wоmеn оr fоr аll ріnkѕ, еіthеr. Hоwеvеr, іf уоu’d rаthеr рlау іt ѕаfе аnd nоt rіѕk іt, аvоіd ріnkѕ аnd mаuvе.

It mау bе bесаuѕе wоmеn wіth brоwn еуеѕ tеnd tо hаvе mоrе уеllоw ѕkіn tоnеѕ, mаkіng thеm wаrm соmрlеxіоnеd, аnd ріnkѕ аnd mаuvе аrе dеfіnіtеlу сооl соlоrѕ. Thе сlаѕh іѕ unmіѕtаkеаblе whеn іt іѕ thеrе. Thе bluе undеrtоnе іn ріnkѕ саn rеасt wіth thе уеllоw ѕkіn tоnе аnd рrоduсе а wаѕhеd оut, оr gаrіѕh, еffесt.

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Nоw, thіѕ іѕ nоt а tір ѕресіfісаllу fоr brоwn еуеѕ, but уоu mау wаnt tо аvоіd bluе еуеѕhаdоw аlѕо. Thеrе’ѕ thе mіѕсоnсерtіоn thаt bluе еуеѕhаdоw іѕ “оut”, but thе саѕе mоrе tеndѕ tо bе hоw іt іѕ wоrn. Plау іt ѕаfе аnd ѕkір thіѕ соlоr.

Sіlvеr іѕ nоt а gооd соlоr fоr brоwn еуеѕ. Thеу tеnd tо саuѕе а “wаѕhеd оut” lооk. Lіkе bluе еуеѕhаdоw, lеаvе ѕіlvеr fоr bluе еуеѕ.

Eуеlіnеr Cоlоrѕ

Whіlе nоt еvеrуоnе thаt wеаrѕ еуеѕhаdоw wеаrѕ еуеlіnеr, іt’ѕ аlwауѕ gооd tо hаvе а fеw tірѕ іn уоur bасk росkеt. Thе lіѕt іѕ ѕіmрlе аnd ѕtrаіght fоrwаrd.

Brоwn еуеѕ аlwауѕ lооk gооd wіth dаrk brоwn аnd blасk еуеlіnеr. Aррlу wіth а lіght hаnd, thоugh. A thісk, blасk lіnе саn gіvе thе арреаrаnсе оf rассооn еуеѕ; thаt’ѕ а bіg nо-nо. Nоt оnlу іѕ іt раѕѕе, but іt іѕ unflаttеrіng tо thе еуе аѕ wеll.

Mауbе уоu hаvе ѕmаll еуеѕ аnd аrе wоrrіеd еуеlіnеr wіll оnlу mаkе thеm lооk ѕmаllеr. Nеvеr fеаr! Yоu tоо саn wеаr lіnеr. Lіnе thе fіrѕt thіrd оf уоur еуеlіd (frоm thе іnѕіdе соrnеr) wіth whіtе оr іvоrу аnd thе rеѕt wіth dаrk brоwn.

Nаvу, fоrеѕt grееn, vіоlеt, аnd сорреr аrе аlѕо grеаt еуеlіnеr сhоісеѕ. Plау аrоund wіth thе dіffеrеnt соlоrѕ аnd рісk thе оnеѕ уоu lіkе bеѕt.

One year later, what her death taught me…

My Mom was so great at showing how perfect and wonderful she was. She was all of those things but often she would forget her own feelings. I wanted to share the photo below because it is one of my favorites. It is a photo of my REAL Mom and I.

She would work so hard to make other people happy including myself that she often would forget how to be happy herself. My Mom so easily gave into other peoples opinions about her, that it defined how she felt about herself and what she thought of herself. It exhausted her, she was selfless.

In the last year of her life, she truly lived even though she was in pain for more the 16 hours a day. She had her own opinions. She made her own decisions, had a positive self-image, created her own happiness and my Mom fought for herself up until the very last few seconds of her beating heart.

She used to say she was learning to smile again. She would laugh with her mouth wide open! I wish my Mom would have discovered her self-worth sooner in life. Before she abused herself with negative thought and words, before Bulimia, before Gastric Bypass and before she cared so much about pleasing others.

For me, my Mom’s death has taught me to be selfless and selfish. Her passing has taught me not to worry about the little things, to ask myself in 3 months, 6 months, 1 year will this matter? Will I still be upset about it? It is taught me to make true friends and be a true friend. Literally and truly LIVE every second but mostly to LOVE myself completely.

One year ago, I thought my life was over without her. Today, I am still alive! My Mother is dead, it is not sad and it is not happy. It is just a fact. Her life on earth is over; Her death taught me the importance of loving yourself daily. If you are reading this and you feel worthless, you are not worthless! You are loved. You mean something. Love yourself.  ♥

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People especially women strive to look younger. They eat healthy foods and exercise every single day. They buy the right kind of clothes befitting their age and status. They stay away from harmful activities that can add to aging. They use skin products that have all natural ingredients to maintain their beauty. But what is being beautiful? It is a totality: skin, body, mind and hair. The hair is our crowning glory and the crown needs the right hair care products to live up to the expectation.

They often forget about the hair. This is a common problem. Women focus so much on the skin and they neglect their beautiful locks and smooth strands. In the end, the locks turn into knots of hair and the strands get split ends. The same care for the skin must also be showered to the hair. There must be a balance on the two.

The hair is not the only issue here.

Getting The Appropriate Hair Care Products

These days it is a very big problem to take good care of your hair. In order to keep Black hair looking as good as can be, its unique needs must be addressed. There are products available that are specially formulated to care for kinky or textured hair. It can be hard to know where to find the products you want. Here are some suggestions on the best way to find the black hair products so your hair will look great every day.

Hair care products are necessary for the youngsters who try to look stylish; they try to change their hair styles by using different hair care products. In order for you to get healthy hair, you must take care of your scalp as well. You can make your hair nice for a day by having it styled in your favorite salon – it is an illusion. But is the scalp protected? First off, you need to patronize hair care products that are mild enough for the scalp and not have any adverse reactions that might cause dandruff or dry flakes.

You might hate that the scalp is a bit oily. You have to understand that it is healthy for the scalp to release natural oils. It protects you from bacteria and germs penetrating your scalp. It can also add to your hair moisture.

The need is different from one person to another. What works for your friend or a Hollywood actress advertising her shampoo brand may not work for you. Have you tried using those commercialized shampoos and conditioners endorsed by these sexy actors? Were you satisfied? These commercialized brands have too many synthetic chemicals in it that do more harm than good.

If you want to have naturally great hair, then use natural hair care products.

If you have dry hair, it is better to use shampoos and conditioners with organic aloe vera, almond and mosqueta rose. Normal hair needs protection and you can get that from chamomile extracts and milk proteins. Oily hair needs special attention – use green tea because it tones the scalp and helps in fast recovery of damaged scalp. If you have chemically treated hair (color, perm and straighteners), it is better to use products with Shea butter because it prevents the color from fading out and corn syrup relieves the hair and scalp of all the chemicals from the hair treatments.

It is also better to use separate shampoo and conditioner. Do not be fooled by the 2 in 1 shampoo and conditioner solution. Like the skin, the hair is equally important. You have to choose hair care products wisely and reap the benefits of having healthy and luxuriously beautiful hair.


Get happy with the Verilux HappyLite

I just got this HappyLite, hopefully it will make a difference for those rainy Washington days. I am going to use it at least 30 minutes a day, ask me in a few days how it’s working!

With the Verilux happylite deluxe sunshine simulator you get your daily dose of sunshine and boost your body. The happylite has up to 10,000 LUX of Natural Spectrum Daylight alleviates symptoms associated with Winter Blues, jet lag, shift work and seasonal time changes and it’s convenient, easy-to-use and portable.

Buy it on Amazon, click here.

Get your tan on with Jwoww!

AUSTRALIAN GOLD JWOWW

BLACK BRONZER DARK TANNING LOTION

I recently have become in love with tanning. This bronzer is my favorite! My skin got incredibly tan within the first 2 sessions and it smells so yummy! Jwoww black bronzer will have you turning heads and breaking hearts with your dark sexy color.

It’s sold at most tanning salons for over $80 but I found it on Amazon for $20 with Amazon Prime even if you don’t have Amazon Prime it’s still a great deal. Click here to order.

This extreme dark bronzing blend of black currant and kukui oil offers the hottest dark color possible, while vitamins and hemp seed extract deliver superior hydration to leave your skin feeling undeniably soft and sexy.

Product Features

  • Black bronzer
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The chapter is over but her legacy is not

I wanted to write a post to continue on with my blog back to the regular things I want to write about however it didn’t seem right to not post a follow up about my Mom.

First, how cute is she in the picture above?! So cute!

I could go on and tell you about the pain she was in days before she had her second surgery on February 28th 2013 but those details would make no difference. I could tell you about how much HOPE we had that her life was changing for the better and how she was in absolutely NO PAIN after February 28th 2013 but those details would also make no difference.

My Mom was getting prepared to be perfect to make her way back home to heaven. The past two years were HER storm before HER calm. My God greeted my Mom on the afternoon of March 20th 2013. Welcoming her into heaven, her new home for eternity.

I don’t want to go into too many details about what happened February 28th 2013–March 20th 2013 since honestly it will not change anything. The day my Mother was conceived God knew he would see her in his kingdom on March 20th 2013 no matter what the circumstances were.

These past days have been some of the worst days of my entire life. I question daily
Why did this happen?
Why do I have to be a 27 year old woman with no Mother and no Father?
Who do I go to for guidance?
Who do I call when I am having a bad day?
I have learned that for some messed up reason God must believe I am independent enough to survive without them. IT SUCKS!

To get through difficult days I have been saying things that my Mom would say to me….. things like “You made it through another day” “You should be so proud of yourself” I know sadly her voice I hear inside my head will one day change into my own voice the way God intends it to be but I hope that day does not come soon.

After my Mom passed away I found a journal she wrote that has provided me great comfort. I read it when I am upset and angry about my life… She writes…

” I sometimes feel as if God has forgotten about me, I feel I’ve done something wrong but I have to look at the positive side. I have to remember that everything GOD puts in front of me are for a purpose. The anguish and turmoil I feel are for me to learn something that GOD wants me to experience …Sometimes when the pain is soo unbearable I have to keep going…When I feel death would be a easy way out I have to remind myself that I promised to serve my savior and he is not done with me yet. I pray pray pray that GOD shows me what he wants me to do”

For me, many days the pain of her being gone is soo unbearable. I feel so lost, the kind of feeling you get when you left your cell phone at home or when you know you didn’t put on deodorant. I feel like this everyday.

Daily when I spend hours in bed crying I wish she would be here to lay in bed with me and hug me the way she used to when I would be stressed out about little reasons that now seem so stupid.
I am thankful for all the emails and letters my Mom would often write me when I was having a bad day. I recently found an email she wrote me that says “I don’t know why the devil is trying to discourage you but I know when you are done with this experience you will be a better person”

Will I be a better person after THIS experience?

My Mom always looked for the positive in things and people, even when we all knew there was no positive. She always found it.

I could continue to have a pity party for myself everyday but when that happens I can hear my Mom say what she would always say when I did that… “We don’t have time to just sit around, a lot of people are depending on you to change the world”

My goal through this experience is to share my experience maybe not change the world but change someone’s life. I hope to find my actual calling very soon even through my daily sadness.

To all mothers, encourage your children the way my Mom encouraged me. Write your children notes, emails, send them letters in the mail and leave voice mails. It might not make a difference today but one day it will.

My Mom’s chapter is over but I know her legacy is not. A good friend/mentor asked me one day “Have you ever thought that maybe your mom’s legacy is you and the unquenchable fire in you that keeps you going each and every day?”

Everyday is a different story.

“I was waiting for the longest time, she said. I thought you forgot. It is hard to forget, I said, when there is such an empty space when you are gone.”― Brian Andreas, Story People